Couple Toys

In general, any toy can become a “couple’s toy” if you’re open to using it with or on your partner. With some imagination any toy can be incorporated into your intimate activities together. I always tell my customers to stop thinking that vibrators are just for women, or just for women to use by themselves. Men and women both have sensitive areas, so why not hold a vibrating toy against anyone’s sensitive parts? Here’s a primer on using toys as a couple for couples of all genders.

Using Any Toy as a “Couple’s Toy”

Hand-held external vibrators or any small vibrating bullet will feel great against a woman’s clitoris and vulva lips, but they will also feel fantastic for a man when held under his balls or used to gently stroke the shaft, around the head of the penis, or the perineum - the awesome spot between the balls and anus. Try using a vibrator during oral sex. Men and women both have nipples, so try holding a vibrator there for a unique sensation. One or both partners could enjoy wearing an anal plug or vibrating anal toy while enjoying oral, vaginal, or anal sex for a truly multi-orgasmic experience. Vibrators and other toys can be used with or on your partner before, during, and after sex – why limit yourself? Be creative!  

Remember that using a toy together is a way to enhance your lovemaking, it does not have to replace your partner or the activities you usually enjoy together. If you have never used a toy together before, why not try the following toys? They are all discreet and relatively non-threatening. They can be used to spice things up as you try new things together. It’s all about the adventure! 

Slay Calexotics is a line of external, hand-held, vibrators with a discreet shape and slight curve that makes them great to use on women or men in the ways described above. They can be held easily against the clitoris during various intercourse positions. Each has ten vibration functions and you can choose a style and hold that works best for you and your lover: the Lover, Entice Me, or Please Me. 

For Customizable Fun, Lelo Nea is an external vibrator with different speeds and pulsing rhythms. Use it in the ways described above, or sandwich it between you and your partner’s bodies during intercourse for even more sensation! This is a very quiet and stylish luxury toy.

Try a Bullet, such as the Fing O Bullet which is a powerful, tiny vibrator that fits on your fingertip. Great for oral sex in the ways described above, or to be held against the clitoris during woman on top intercourse. So small it doesn’t get in the way!

We-Vibe wearable vibrators are the ultimate couples toys: they are vibrators you can wear inside the vagina, hands-free, during intercourse! The toys are made in a C-shape - one end is worn in the vagina and the other rests upon the clitoris. A penis or dildo then thrusts under the end inside the vagina, and both partners enjoy incredible sensations! Different pulsation and escalation modes keep you both excited. For couples using a strap-on harness, the We-Vibe Match can be worn underneath the harness, giving the harness-wearing partner targeted G-spot and clitoral stimulation. Be inventive, there a many different ways to use these toys! 

Vibrating Pleasure Rings, like the Big O 2 or the iVibe are stretchy rings that fit on the base of the penis or a dildo and have a vibrator attached. The vibrator can be positioned up or down so it can best stimulate the receiving partner on the clitoris or anus, as well as vibrating against the shaft of the wearer.  The vibrator positioned in a downwards position also feels great against the balls of the person wearing it. These are great first-time toys for couples, and the ring will prolong the erection by keeping blood in the penis!

Male Masturbators, Stroking Sleeves or Pocket Pussies are snug but stretchy ribbed, rubber tunnels that provide great sensations as the penis thrusts into them. Use them as couple’s toys with one partner holding the tunnel while the other thrusts, or cut the tunnel to size so the tip of the penis pokes out the end and you can give oral sex while stroking him! Great for men having sex together. Stroking tunnels come in vagina, mouth, and anus models.

When choosing toys to use with your partner, be sure to keep your partner’s preferences in mind as well as your own. Will your partner enjoy or be turned off by the sight of a realistic-shaped toy? Why not start with a toy that doesn’t look like anything in particular? Even better, visit Positive Passions or browse our online store together and talk about what you’d like to try. Then choose something together! You will have even more anticipation and excitement of knowing you are going to try something new “next time.” 

By The Positive Passions Team