What is a dilator?  A dilator is a product that can be inserted into either the vagina or anus to gradually enlarge the body opening and accustom the body’s muscles to the insertion of a penis or dildo, especially a penis or dildo that is larger than what the person’s body can comfortably accommodate at the present. This article is about vaginal dilators.  Why use a vaginal dilator?  A vaginal dilator is used as a training and exercise device to help strengthen the pelvic flo

When most people think about sex toys, vibrators are probably the first thing to come to mind, but toys don’t need to vibrate in order to be pleasurable. While vibration can be very stimulating, especially on the clitoris, many women prefer stroking and gentle pressure inside the vagina than vibration. By using a dildo you can achieve these sensations, which are similar to those experienced during intercourse. Here at Positive Passions you’ll find a wealth of non-vibrating to

Our consultants are asked many questions about the products we carry and about sexuality in general.  There are a lot of societal misconceptions surrounding sex toys and I think it is time to challenge some of these myths and give you the facts about the toys you enjoy!  Myth: All sex toys are made of unsafe body materials. Fact: It is true that some toys contain phthalates (plastic additives) which have been found to be harmful to the body, however today there are many toys

The question is, why is orgasm the “be all, end all,” of sex?  Is sex really a race to the finish line and is orgasm the final prize? Orgasm = Good Sex I’ve noticed that the standard sexual endeavor usually plays out as “I had an orgasm now you have an orgasm and sex is complete.”  I think many people put too much pressure on their partners and themselves to experience this sexual holy grail. This pressure can actually make it harder to have an orgasm because your brain is yo

Role Reversal in Sex Play Recently, within my research as a consultant here at Positive Passions I came across an interesting term known as “pegging”.   This is a practice in which one partner penetrates the other partner anally, usually using a strap on harness or a dildo.  This is becoming a more common and talked about practice for heterosexual couples who want to add role reversal to their sexual repertoire.  We often get questions at the shop about this subject, such as;

Lube 101 – Your Positive Passions Guide to Great Lubricants “I need a lubricant that won’t turn sticky!”  “I need a lubricant that won’t irritate me or give me an infection!” We hear these comments several times a day, every day, at Positive Passions.  Fortunately, our knowledgeable staff members are always ready to assist. Today we give you the low-down on lube with our Q & A!   In this article we answer the following questions: What are the different types of lubricants? Ho

Sex is fabulous and fun if you do it right, but it can be downright scarring if you do it wrong. Sex toys are the same. Respect yourself, your genitals, and your partner by being educated on our product best practices. How to clean them, how to be safe with them, and how to love them. I’m going to go over a few tips and tricks for toys and lubricants. First lesson is the plethora of sex toy materials, and how to deal with them. There are a lot of materials, and usually you ca

In general, any toy can become a “couple’s toy” if you’re open to using it with or on your partner. With some imagination any toy can be incorporated into your intimate activities together. I always tell my customers to stop thinking that vibrators are just for women, or just for women to use by themselves. Men and women both have sensitive areas, so why not hold a vibrating toy against anyone’s sensitive parts? Here’s a primer on using toys as a couple for couples of all gen

Here at Positive Passions, we promote healthy lifestyles and part of maintaining a healthy lifestyle includes regular exercise.  If a muscle doesn’t get used it loses strength and muscles around the genitals are no exception.  The Pubococcygeus muscle (PC) or pelvic floor muscles are involved in urination and orgasm.  Both men and women have a PC muscle and we can strengthen this muscle by doing our Kegel exercises on a regular basis.   If you have never done Kegel exercises

Many societal myths still surround masturbation or self love as we call it here at Positive Passions. In our society we are often raised with a lot of misinformation about manually stimulating ourselves. The fact is you will not go blind, your genitals will not fall off, you will not be punished and you will not harm yourself or get disease from solo sex. Self love is a freedom of sexual expression and an enjoyable, safe way to get to know what type of sensations feel good t

Sexual Communication You’ve probably heard it a thousand times – for success in any relationship, communication is crucial. But what does that actually mean? Merriam-Webster defines communication as “a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs or behavior.” Putting this definition into the specific context of sexuality, we see a lot of options! Communication could be an actual face-to-face conversation with your l

Glass With Class “Glass sex toys? Really? Why would I want to put something that hard and possibly breakable into my body?” I thought out loud to myself as I picked up a glass dildo for the first time.  “Because it feels AMAZING!” the sales rep woman enthusiastically replied.  Now, a satisfied glass toy owner myself, I am happy to agree with her and tell you, Positive Passions reader, why. Great Features of Glass Toys: Body-safe and hypoallergenic. No phthalates, no irrita

Let's Change Your View of BDSM What is BDSM? BDSM is a term used to cover many acts of sexuality: bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, and masochism. People tend to have a very negative idea of what BDSM is - they see it as something dark, angry, and cruel. Like a lot of things in life, we form ideas of what we think something is upon what we have seen of it through forms of media. A lot of porn does depict BDSM as all of these dark things, but it doesn't have

I decided to create the Advanced Bodysex retreat when it became apparent to me that the women who keep returning to Bodysex, often do so because they want a deeper exploration. Thanks to Bodysex they are comfortable with group nudity, masturbating amongst a circle of women and have a more in depth understanding of their sexual anatomy. I believe that these things provide an essential foundation to help with confidence, self acceptance and being orgasmic, while also offering u

We are so excited about this product, we couldn't help but write an article about it.  Compact, quality, beauty: the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Lux is the cutting edge of sex toy design, combining accessibility, versatility, and power. This toy has its origin in medical science, where studies have revealed the precise frequency and amplitude of vibrations necessary to allow orgasm in men with Spinal Cord Injury (SCI). The team at Hot Octupuss developed the technology that combin

“Oh” “Oh, baby!” “Oh my God” Classics go-to’s. However out of breath and speechless you may become during love making, there is a whole world of speech and vocal variety to lend spice, intimacy, and play to your sexy moments. If you’re looking to include some linguistic variety into your sexual repertoire, look no further. During a perfectly average day of work at Positive Passions, we compiled an incomplete list of all our favourite things to say during sex, with some themat

Dear Natasha, I orgasm pretty easily by myself and when my boyfriend goes down on me. It feels good but the orgasm is just in my vagina and clit. I’ve read about full body orgasms and heard that orgasms can happen in other places in your body too and I’m curious about that. How can I have a full body orgasm? From K., Dear K., Thanks for your great question! Many men and women have asked me the same thing and I can assure you that you’re not alone. Orgasms are the result of bu

I remember the first time that I walked into a sex shop with the intention of buying something for myself. It was Positive Passions, actually, and I had a strict budget of $120 max. Not knowing as much then as I do now, I asked the same question I now get asked frequently at the shop: “What can I get for less than $100?” This, of course, drastically reduced my options. I left with a cock ring and a bullet vibrator and though I enjoyed them well enough at the time, I no longer

I was having a drink with a friend I’ve known from way back the other night when she said “ I always tell people how you used to wear capris all summer because you hated your legs and you were fully covered up no matter how hot a day it was. Now look at you!”  Lying on my bed listening to her say this, my mind kept going back and forth between those days of such body/self hatred to the present moment of being so comfortable in my body that I’m consciously trying to remember t

“Do you have a one-dose pill for, you know, sexuality?” As an Affiliate Consultant for Positive Passions, I get asked variations of this question frequently. Most often it is young, timid women who call or come in at the behest of their cisgendered male boyfriends. (Admittedly this is a generalization, but let’s address the other individuals and contexts in which this question is asked in future articles). I can deeply sympathize with these women for many personal reasons. I